We know that trust, fidelity, honesty and all those things are important in a relationship, but let’s get back to basics. Sometimes, when we live with someone for a long time, even the basic courtesy’s that would extend to other people go out the window. As they say: ‘Familiarity breeds contempt’, so here we take a fresh look at the real secrets to a successful relationship and examine some of the basics that we often forget:
1. Remember and celebrate birthdays and anniversaries
After years of living together, does it really matter if you forget one birthday or an anniversary? Well, actually, yes, it matters a lot! Of course, your partner will forgive, but will they forget or will it make your relationship happier? On its own, it is only a minor mistake, but if you often forget important dates, it will add to the negative score and it will be remembered, so our first and important tip on how to have a successful relationship is – remember and make sure to celebrate birthdays and anniversaries.
2. Celebrate your romance and continue to date
Many couples get too comfortable in their relationship and stop going out on dates with their partner, spending every evening in pajamas in front of a TV. This is one of the important mistakes that won’t be beneficial for your love. Partners in happy and successful relationships continue to go out often, have fun, make surprises and enjoy dating each other, even after long years of marriage, and this is one of the important ingredients of happy and successful relationship and marriage.
3. Nurture your relationship with your partner’s family
Another tip on how to have a successful relationship is – nurture your relationship with your partner’s family. It’s a fact of life that when you marry your partner, you marry their family, so live with it! You may actually fail to agree with your in-laws or you may not even like their points of view, but it’s worth the effort to do everything that you can to, at least, keep the peace with them. Your partner didn’t choose his family and he can’t just dump them, so it’s much easier if you learn to get on with them, and it’s even better if you manage to sincerely love them.
4. Don’t expect him to enjoy makeup shopping
Another secret of how to have a successful relationship is – understand and accept that men and women often have different interests. Don’t expect that you will share everything together. He probably hates makeup or clothes shopping and you hate football or hockey, and it would be wrong for either of you to expect the other person to change. Accept that you have different interests and pursue them separately, that way you can both be happy.
5. Never forget that your partner has a choice
If you think along the lines of ‘no one else would put up with him’, then you could be in for a rude awakening. When you have been in a relationship for some time, both parties can begin to think that things are cast in stone. It is wise to remember that everyone has a choice, whether to continue in a relationship or not, however long lasting that relationship may be, so cherish your love and treasure what you have.
6. Be polite and respectful
Another advice on how to have a successful relationship is – always be polite and respectful. Politeness costs nothing, but it is often forgotten in a relationship. It is no one’s duty to do a particular chore or even to buy a gift, so don’t forget to say such magic words, as ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ to each other and show your gratitude, care and appreciation.
7. Be realistic in your expectations
Any relationship advice columnist will tell you that you have to expect the rough, as well as the smooth in a relationship, but it is equally important to accept the downright boring! You can’t be starry eyed lovers all your life and you can’t expect every day to be an adventure, so you have to expect that there will be a lot of days that are just plain ordinary.
8. Vive la différence! Learn to compromise
Men are men and women are women, and the two are distinctly different! We don’t mean to be stereotyping here, but he will want the lounge painted blue and she will want a floral pink, and that’s probably why magnolia is such a popular color for wall coverings! You will both have different ideas on everything, from where to eat out to what the garden should look like, and compromise will often be the only way forward.
9. Look after each other
Our next tip on how to have a successful relationship is – show your love and care to your partner. A successful relationship is not all about romance and bedroom, it’s about having somewhere to go when things aren’t right. Whether it’s someone to make us a hot drink when we have a cold, or someone to tell us it doesn’t matter when things go wrong at work; what we all need is someone to be there for us when we need them.
10. For better or for worse
And our final tip on how to have a successful relationship is – remember that happy and successful couples commit themselves to the relationship wholeheartedly and they know that they are in it for the long haul. Things may get bad sometimes, people lose jobs, people get sick and people change, but successful relationships are not built by people who quit the moment when things get a bit tough.
How to have a successful relationship? Do you have some other tips? Feel free to share them in the comment section below.
Stay happy, love and be loved!